When is it ok for Teens to Date?
Here are some of my thoughts.
Did you know that I can not find one place in the Bible that talks about dating without the intent to get married. Recreational dating obviously is something that we have created in the last however many years. I research my genealogy as a hobby and I really don't think that my ancestors from the 1700 and 1800's dated for fun. They dated (very briefly) then got married. They didn't date one person and move on to someone else - They dated with a purpose. They dated, got married and started a family. Women were homemakers and the men were farmers (at least in my family).
I am writing this post because we are in this stage of parenting right now with my oldest who will soon be 15 years old. He, over the past couple of months has "gotten a girlfriend". I use those words very lightly because he only sees her at school. We do not allow him to date. Over the past couple of months they have "broken up" and now have gotten back together. My husband and I have told him he can't date until he is at least 16 and even then we will have to discuss it.
Here are some reasons why teens should not date:
* School is too important - Grades will suffer when your focus is elsewhere.
* Not mature enough to make wise decisions.
* Teens do not know or understand what love is.
* I don't even want to talk about hormones.
* No money for the date. Am I supposed to pay for it? I don't think so.
* Dating brings on emotions and feelings that teens are not equipped to handle.
I find more and more that parents are promoting this. Many parents think sending their young teens off on dates is perfectly acceptable. After all, teen will be teens.
NOT MY TEEN! Not if I can possibly help it. My children are set apart. They are different. They are here for a purpose. God has a plan for each one of them. I am supposed to be a good Steward over these children God has placed in my care.
I know that some of you will think we are mean or silly but I believe with everything in me that teens should be having fun and enjoying their friends in high school. They should be focused on other things that will actually make a difference in their future. There is plenty of time to date and settle down. I do one day want my children to get married - that's sort of what my job is for - preparing them for real life but I am in no hurry and they shouldn't be either.
How about you? Do you have or have you had teenagers? How did you deal with the dating thing?
To Read More On Teens and Dating You can check out my post titled Teens and Dating - Group vs. Double Date