I know that some people who date as teenagers do stay together and get married and lead long, healthy and prosperous lives BUT in a country where the Divorce rate even among Christian couples is over 50 % the chances of this happening are frankly slim to none.
I was a teen that dated in high school. I dated one guy primarily for most of my high school career. Did I suffer through countless fights, heartaches, pains and breakups? YES, yes I did. Am I married to that person today? No, no I am not. Thank You JESUS!
It is socially acceptable today to date many people and when you are tired of them or disagree with them to just break up and throw that relationship away. This teaches our children and teens that when times get tough or situations that are hard arise it's ok to walk away. It's ok to leave. It's ok to move on to someone else. Someone prettier, healthier, wealthier, smarter,....
It sets their hearts up for a throw away relationship later in life. I am not suggesting that all teens who date many people then get married will end up in divorce by no means. I am one of those teens and I am happily married to my best friend. The man God placed in my life. He is stuck with me for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, in skinniness and fatness, with beautiful hair and hair that's turning grey.
But it does send the message that when you don't get along it's ok to move on. Why not just wait and PRAY. Pray for God to send you the right person when it's time and COMMIT to staying pure in mind, heart, body and spirit until that person presents his/herself to you.
Why not teach our children to pray for their future spouses? To pray that they also stay pure in mind, heart, body and spirit until the time when God puts them together so that neither of them carry the hurt, pain and baggage from previous relationships into the new one.
Do you pray for your childrens future spouse? I have to admit this used to be a concept I thought was crazy because who's thinking about your children getting married when they are babies or toddlers or better yet when they are in your womb? God is. He has all of their days planned out already. If He thinks it's important we probably should too.
Psalm 139:13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Jerimiah 1:5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew[a] you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
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