What does it mean to be a submitted wife?
Does it mean that I am perfect? Does it mean that I am a door mat for my husband? Does it mean that my opinion in this thing called marriage doesn't matter? Does it mean that my husband is more important to God in our marriage than me? Does it mean that I never get a say in what goes on? Is being submitted something I am made to do?
The answer to all of these questions is NO!
When my husband and I were dating and first married I was very independent (nearing the line of feminism). I loved him but I had my own way, I didn't need help and I had an "I can do it just as well as he can" mentality. In part I was this way because up until he and I started going out I had to be or at least I felt like I had to be but another part of me wanted to be this way. I wanted this freedom of not having to be dependent upon anyone else.
In Ephesians the Bible says that the husband is to leave his mother and father, likewise the wife also is to leave her father and mother and the two (husband and wife) shall become one. Is it possible for us to literally become one? Of course not. But in God's eyes when we join ourselves in the marriage covenant with our spouse we do become as one flesh existing as two individual beings.
Now, how many of you know that just because you get married does not mean that you and your husband think alike all of the time? Just because you are married it doesn't mean that you both all of the sudden agree on every decision that comes your way.
This my sweet friend is where submission comes into the picture. Submission is something that a wife freely gives to her husband. It is not something that a husband can demand or take from his wife. Submission is an attitude of the heart that a woman chooses to give her husband. Submission according to the Amplified version of the Bible is simply adapting yourself to your husband.
I submit to my husband because I love him, I trust him, I respect him and because God tells me to. As wives we need to put our trust in God, step out in faith and submit to our husbands.
Are you a Submissive Wife?